Elder Parent Care – Share the Load

Family meeting to discuss Mom and Dad

As older parents age, the burden of care usually starts to fall on the grown children. If there are differences in availability, age, distance and financial resources between the siblings, conflicts can arise within the family. Here are some suggestions and resources for dealing with this common situation.

Let’s start with a video by Rhonda Caudell RN, CCM, at The Aging Parent Expert, and EndlessLegacy.com  Rhonda offers some practical advice on sibling communication in this short clip.  Since the audio signal on this recording is very low, you will need to turn up the volume. The video is set to start where the actual content begins at 0:42 seconds. To view the entire video, just rewind to the beginning in your video player.

Rhonda has authored a helpful, downloadable guide titled Have the Dreaded Aging Parent “Talk” with Ease by Knowing How To Start. Click for access.


One of the best family resources for coping with elder care can be found at CaregiverStress.com. This video on the 50-50 Rule® is set to start at 2:50 minutes to “get to the point”.  To view the entire video, just rewind to the beginning in your video player.

You can view and download an excellent brochure on the 50-50 Rule® here.

The 50-50 Rule is a registered trademark of Home Instead Inc.

What suggestions do you have for avoiding and helping resolve conflict between siblings?

* You may notice some Canadian spelling in these posts. The words may look odd but that’s how we spell them. We’re used to it.

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Unless otherwise credited, all posts are happily authored with a quill pen …
Paul Ferri, Broker, ASA (Accredited Senior Agent)
RE/MAX Unique Inc. Brokerage*, Toronto, Canada
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